In the face of life and death choices, “You go first and leave me.”
Editor’s note: This article is from WeChat public account “Feng Lunfeng Horse Cattle” (ID: fengluntalk), author Feng Lun.
Talk to you today about “trust”.
Actually, I did business because I was not trusted. Making money in the process of doing business is also because of trust. It can be said that the meaning of trust to our lives is that it makes people get and loses; it makes people happy and makes people worry.
I have a lot of observations about “trust.” First, what is trust? Trust is giving, paying, paying, and responsibility. Why do you say that? I talk about a few things I encountered.
My university in Xi’an, so my classmates are basically Shaanxiese. A classmate of mine once told us the story of his blind date. How did he date? It was a rural girl sitting in the room, her head very embarrassed, and her hand pulling the corner of her clothes. Then, my classmate entered the room. After he entered the house, the two did not know what to say. After being silent for a while, the boy said something in Shaanxi dialect, “Your mom gave you, how about you?” The meaning is simple, “Your mom gave you, can you see it?” Girl He also replied, “Give it and give it.” After that, the two promised each other. One year later, they even had children.
This is the story of his blind date told by my classmates. So, what is trust? In his story, it is a sentence, “Give it, give it.” If poetic, trust is called “private life in the back garden.” It is his life, his wishes, his own I want to put it on another person, so it is a process of giving.
“Golden Wedding” ｜ Trust is a process of giving
I know an interesting coal boss. He made a lot of money, so he vigorously “made” and spent money. Friends asked him, “How can you build like an upstart?” He replied, “I believe money in this world, and only money is good for me. Even my mother and my father are not as good as money.”
Why did he say that? It turned out he was very downcast. When he went bankrupt, Dong hid in Tibet, and even his mother would not allow him to enter the door, because as soon as he entered the door, the debtor would follow him, Making the whole family of chickens and dogs restless. So no matter where he hid, relatives and friends ignored him.
When he is rich, everyone will treat him well. He felt, “Since money can bring so many benefits, that money is good for me, and I have to be better with it.” How can money be better? That is to give all the money, he will pay. He trusts money. He believes that money can solve his difficulties and help him change part of his destiny, so he spends money, which is what he said, “In this world, money is good for me, and I must be good for money.”
This is a person I meet who really loves money and loves it for a reason. He firmly believes that money can give him more sense of security, and therefore he is constantly giving, giving, and eventually gaining everyone’s trust.
“lost” | trust means giving
I also encountered one thing. That was more than a decade ago. One person in our company used to do something. With a sum of money, he poured the money to himself, but left the debt. Later, someone came to clear the matter, and a group of people came and told me, “There are two pieces of paper where you can choose where to sign. One piece of paper you signed shows that you don’t recognize the debt because it is not related to you. It is related to the company. But if you do n’t recognize it, take him away and treat it as a criminal case. There is another one that you sign, that is, you carry the matter, that is to say, the debt belongs to you. Then people will find If you want money, we won’t care about this person. “
This debt is more than 40 million. I was quite tangled up at the time. If I sign the back word, I will bear the tens of millions more for nothing. When can I pay it back? In fact, I was not so sure.
Of course, his family also came to me, and his friends also came to me. After tangling for a while, I can only choose one thing, that is, I believe that this person occasionally does it. He can still be a good person and have achievements in the future. Maybe he can return it to me at any time in the future. Carry it. In this way, I recognized this account. After about six or seven years, I paid the money back. What about him? After about ten years, I made a company and went public.
Although he didn’t come back to pay me back, I didn’t regret it. I hoped for it, and chose to trust him, so I bought this list. So trust means carrying things and paying.
《POI》 ｜ Trust means carrying things, means paying the bill
I once saw a story when I encountered difficulties and was moved by it. And this story has been in my heart for a long time.
A well-known general was besieged during a war and could not go out. Everyone couldn’t help it. He called everyone together and said, “You are all here now, don’t move. I’ll do something after a while. After you see the explosion there, you will run somewhere. Let’s meet there You don’t need to worry about the rest. “He knew the enemy and some secret words of the other party, so when he was raining, he rushed directly into the enemy’s headquarters. There was a brazier talking over there. As soon as he went in, he was scared of others. Why did he run forward? Then he smashed the opponent with a single shot. Then there was a chaos in the army, and he ran away, and at last he merged with his own soldiers in another place.
It will be difficult after the meeting. Someone will chase after you. When he reached halfway, he was too sleepy. He fell asleep when everyone was resting. When he woke up, he was tied up. He froze for a moment and said, “What’s going on?”
The person under his hand said, “Brother, there is really no way we can go this way without any hope. What should we do? We discussed it and only tied you up to the other party. Maybe they can spare us With one life, we can still go home to live. Otherwise, everyone will die with you.
The older brother thought for a moment, paused, and said, “Oh, this is the reason, then you are doing it right. Why? When I brought you out, I made a promise with your parents, I hope you have a good life , Marrying a daughter-in-law, eating meat, and wearing a cotton jacket, I have made good progress, but after several years with me, the battle has really not been fought, and I still fall into this field today. If this method can give you a way of life, I support . “
These words made the brothers hesitate a little bit, thinking that the elder brother was really good to us, but did not release him, and continued on the road.
“The right path on earth is vicissitudes” ｜ LetterWhat is Ren? Is to give life to others
After walking for a while, everyone began to feel a little awkward, so the elder brother said again, “Everyone walks this way, and their hearts are uncomfortable. What should I do? Simply, you just cut my head and get a head It ’s not difficult for you to meet the enemy, and the method is simple. “
In this way, the people underneath can no longer hold it, crying loudly, and then kneeling down to the elder brother, saying, “brother, we are sorry for you, there is really nothing we can do.”
The elder brother said, “I’m sincere too, I must let you live a good life, so if you want to start, just start.”
But these people didn’t choose to start, they released the big brother. Later, they fought all the way and successfully broke through the siege.
So what is trust? It is giving life to others. This is the one thing that touched me most in the trust I saw. When faced with life and death choices, “you go first, leave me.”
In the war, we will read many such stories, but when we started business ourselves, we began to understand that, in fact, trust is as simple as it should be. When it is necessary to pay, when it is necessary to take responsibility, to take responsibility. When you come down, take the danger and let others have a life. In fact, only in this way can you achieve your goals and you can do what you like. If there is no such process, people may eventually suspect each other and even kill each other.