Changing yourself is sometimes not difficult, as long as you start small and make up your mind to do it.
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Editor’s note: Maintaining confidence is actually very difficult. Many people will doubt whether they are capable of doing something well, especially after being hit. When you find yourself in a trough, you need to learn ways to increase confidence. The author, Oliver Brunchmann, introduces 3 simple methods he has used, hoping to be helpful to those in the trough. This article was published on Medium with the original title Boost Your Self-Confidence with 3 Simple Tools.
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Confidence is a capricious friend. Sometimes you are full of ambition and spirit, and you believe that you are in control of anything you are determined to do. This is the feeling you should have when you are confident. But do you feel that way?
For the first half of my life, I didn’t have the confidence I have today. I wonder if I really have the ability to do my job or if people like what I am now.
I have tried many different strategies to improve my self-confidence. In the end, I understand that changing yourself is sometimes not difficult, as long as you start small and make up your mind to do it.
With a few simple steps, you also have the power to change yourself. Let me summarize in a short sentence what I have done.
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Control your feelings with clear strategies.
Exercise your own success story.
Learn something and move on.
1. Control your feelings
“Feeling”, one of the most basic mechanisms of human survival: whether to fight or escape, we must rely on feelings to makeResponse, it is the backbone of our survival as a species. This means that we must not take our feelings lightly, they are vital to us. But this does not mean that we have to be slaves to feelings.
In this case, the two most important things you need to know about your feelings are:
Controlling your feelings is difficult, but you can control your reaction to feelings.
You can adjust the intensity of your emotions. At least to some extent.
When something happens suddenly, your life is turned upside down. This is the time to start training. This may be a terrible meeting at work, and you may be sluggish as a result.
You gradually accept this feeling and look at the whole thing. You will find that the problem often lies not with the incident itself, but with our judgment of the incident. In reaction to events, you can learn to control yourself. Eventually you will find that it is your judgment of the event that determines your emotions, not the event itself.
You can learn to look at something without judgment, or make different judgments about the event from the other side. The meeting may be bad, but it can also be an opportunity to learn. If you add another follow-up meeting, your ability is even more brilliant.
When you start to control your judgment, it will help you regulate your emotional response.
Second, you can train yourself to regulate your emotional response. My favorite sentence is this:
You can choose the level of pain!
This sentence comes from one of my favorite books: Out Stealing Horses, written by Norwegian writer Per Petterson. P.s. My English citation may not be that accurate because I haven’t read the English version of the book. In the book, the boy and his family live in the mountains of Norway, and this sentence is the most important lesson he learned from his father.
I think this is the only book that makes me cry. (Except for Harry Potter, I don’t believe any readers did not cry for that person after he died.)
Back to work. You can sink into your emotions as much as you can, but you can also observe this emotion, accept it, and let it pass. It takes time and training, but you can do it. You can choose the degree of your pain.
These two different strategies can train you, help you control your emotional response, and thus control the impact of your emotions on your confidence.
2. Practice more and tell your success story
I first learned about this method in an article about a job interview.The author makes a lot of sense, he said that before the interview, you should prepare your own success story. When you have such stories, you should practice the skills of telling them.
This is in the middle of it for me. In fact, this technique can not only be applied to job interviews. Writing down and repeating your success stories is a way to remember them. When you doubt yourself, you have an arsenal of “success history”, which provides endless ammunition for you to eliminate self-doubt.
Personally, I don’t share most stories. When I have an interview, or when I want to let others accept my experience at work, I share some of my professional experience. I will leave more and more personal stories to myself.
Read your success story whenever you need to increase your confidence
I know that journaling is popular in most self-improvement articles. I think this is for a reason. Diary writing is really helpful, but I just do n’t have the time, energy, and habit to write a diary. I find it a bit boring.
Instead, I focus on writing some short success stories in my notebook (the electronic version is on Onenote). The format I use is to write the following on half a sheet of A4 paper:
Background: Under what circumstances did you succeed?
Challenges: What were the challenges you faced at the time?
Solution: How did you solve it then?
Result: What impact did this success have. How do they react to other people’s influences?
If anyone wants to see it, I can share one or two later.
3. Learn something and let it pass
Life requires you to taste the sadness of life. You may encounter various problems and go through many difficult times, but this is part of life. In these cases, you may feel that you are not confident. Really, this is normal.
The key is not to get stuck. Think about what you can learn from this experience, and then let those experiences pass as quickly as possible.
Getting rid of stress does not necessarily mean that you have to give up something, but that you can let go of things when necessary and know that you will still be fine after that.
—— Timothy Gallway
It can be difficult to let go of something, but you can practice many different techniques to do this. The key to this is: divert attention from the problem and focus on the positiveOr neutral things.
In most cases, the best thing you can do is think about how to do good things for others. Doing good for others is one of the safest ways to make yourself feel better and increase your confidence. This is to prevent you from thinking too much about horns, you need to look at the outside world.
Summary
Control your emotions with clear strategies. You can choose the level of pain
Build your own library of success stories. Use them to motivate yourself.
Learn from your own experiences and let them go. Don’t indulge in the past.
Translator: Hi Soup