Quiet leadership education in the subject
Editor’s note: This article is from the micro-channel public number “Bo Van Time” (ID: bofanstime), Author: Peter Van time.
1. Read aloud without interruption
There was a survey on the factors related to student performance in the United States. The survey first set a series of indicators including students’ academic performance, social skills, and moral awareness. Based on these indicators, students were scored to obtain a high “Excellent curve” of sub-performance. Researchers took this curve and compared it with some related factors to see which factors were affected. The researchers compared many factors such as the student’s school, the community environment, the family’s economic status, and the education level of their parents. However, the correlation of these factors is relatively weak. Only one factor is highly consistent with the “excellent curve”, that is, the “parents”. Do you continue to read to your child since he was young?” The reading content not only includes various stories, but also various excellent works, and the child cannot interrupt the listening process.
Where is the correlation between parents’ reading aloud and their children’s outstanding performance? Research has found that reading aloud not only delivers useful content, but also cultivates the habit of quiet listening. The child may not be able to fully understand the content read aloud, or may encounter various problems and obstacles in the process of listening, but because the child does not immediately ask questions, this invisibly cultivates a fully accepted empty cup mentality and the habit of positive thinking . Faced with questions that are continuously generated in the heart, there are no ready-made answers and direct and effective solutions. Children must fully develop their brains for in-depth thinking, forcing themselves to make information associations and associations, and strive to find answers from the inside, not only invisibly exercised in-depth thinking Ability forms the life practice of introspection and reflection, and more importantly, it tempers the child’s active obedience.
Second, obedience stimulates positive power
The term “children can teach” means that children have strong plasticity and will have a great future after training. This idiom comes from Sima Qian’s “Historical Records·Liuhou Family” and tells the story of Zhang Liang when he was young:< /p>
One day, Zhang Liang went for a walk on the Lishui Bridge near Xiapi and met an old man in coarse cloth. The old man walked up to Zhang Liang and threw a shoe directly under the bridge, asking Zhang Liang to pick up the shoe and put it on himself. Although Zhang Liang complained, he respectfully complied with it. The old man turned around and left after putting on his shoes. Just as Zhang Liang was staring at the back of the old man leaving, the old man turned back and talked to Zhang Liang.Said to let him come to the bridge in five days.
On the morning of the fifth day, Zhang Liang rushed to the bridge. The old man had been waiting on the bridge for a long time. The old man told Zhang Liang angrily that he would come back to the bridge in five days.
Five days later, Zhang Liang set off early in the morning. Unexpectedly, the old man arrived first. The old man told him to come early in five days.
On the third five days, Zhang Liang came to the bridge in the dark just after midnight to wait for the old man. After waiting for a long time, he saw the old man staggering. When the old man saw Zhang Liang, he happily said, “You can teach a child,” and then handed a copy of “The Art of War of Taigong” to Zhang Liang. Later, Zhang Liang painstakingly studied the “Taigong Art of War” and made great contributions to Liu Bang’s establishment of the Han Dynasty. Perhaps it was the hard-won of this military book that made Zhang Liang well aware of its value, and at the same time, his unreasonable submission and patience to the old man inspired him to study hard.
In Chinese characters, the original meaning of the word “filial piety” in “filial piety” means that the son helps the elderly parents, resulting in the meaning of filial piety to the parents, which is a very active passive posture; the word “shun” means obedience The meaning of also expresses a positive silence. The behavior of obedience contained in the word “filial piety” constitutes the foundation of traditional Chinese culture, so there is a saying that “filial piety comes first”. The left half of the word “Jiao” in “education” is the word “filial piety”. The filial piety culture based on obedience is the foundation and fundamental value of Confucian education.
The obedience education in traditional Chinese culture and education is by no means simply instilling ideas and knowledge, and mechanically forming precocious cognitive definitions; on the contrary, it is through formal submission to stimulate children’s independent thinking ability and repeatedly temper their minds. , And in-depth development of intelligence. Obedience itself is a kind of positive force with great resilience, which arouses the positive force in the heart with a kind of external forbearance. Therefore, people who are unfilial and those with poor obedience are often weak and weak people who lack resilience.
Three, create the personality traits of “quiet leadership”
The American philosopher Judith Butler believes that “obedience” is a process of being succumbed to power, but it is also a process of the generation of the subject-the subject starts with the surrender to power. Therefore, scientific and moderate obedience education is precisely the process of catalyzing the birth of independent individuals in a “out of nothing” way.
Children who have received obedience education tend to have deep and steady introverted personality traits, and will not have the superficial performance of listening to the wind and rain. They will filter out a lot of perceptual “quick thinking” and mechanical instinctive reactions in their minds, and enter a kind of calm and deep “slow thinking””Testing” state-the brain is constantly absorbing all kinds of information. They can not only receive some obvious information, but also collect some secret information, and have the ability to see the subtle and know the truth. When they integrate a large amount of information into When we are together, we often start brainstorming in the “subliminal dialogue” between ourselves and ourselves, making thinking deeper, and being able to extract cognitive increments from stock knowledge, forming systematic cognition and scene-based judgments, and face There is more room for maneuver in the face of tricky and complicated difficulties.
When interacting with people, these children always accept everything with an empty cup mentality, and never act in a panic or scrawl; when they encounter problems, behind the seemingly passive appearance is extraordinary initiative, because They have a holistic vision and a global perspective. In the repeated obedience polishing, the goal becomes clearer and more durable. They have the excellent qualities of humility, restraint, and perseverance-and this is exactly the virtues that Harvard Business School Professor Badalak put forward in the book “Quiet Leadership” that is necessary for quiet leadership. It can be seen that moderate obedience education is shaping a deep character in a way of still water flowing deep, releasing a comfortable and continuous force.